Monday Motivation: girls with goals

So we’ve all seen #mondaymotivation, attached to pictures of gorgeous bodies or stuffed purses. But what does a midwife’s Monday motivation look like? And why is it important to have?

First of all, I firmly believe that it’s much harder to work for something when you don’t know what it is you’re working for. I’m a very visual person, I always have been, so I always need to have a visual goal. For the last few years, it’s been a page from the Dundalk Institute of Technology prospectus, the page that outlines the midwifery course. I think it came from a 2011 prospectus, and I still have it! So every day for the last six years, that page has motivated me.

Monday motivation is like a little extension of this. There’s an endless amount of hashtags out there, meant to inspire. Sometimes I think they have the opposite affect, turning life into some kind of competition (but that’s a whole other rant for a different day!).

Quotes to Remind You to Never Miss a Monday!:
image credit @piyadactive on instagram

Now, I can’t speak for everyone but I know that if I’m doing seven twelve or thirteen hour shifts per fortnight, I’m fierce lazy on my days off. I spend the day in my pajamas with Netflix on. I disgust myself, because there are so many better ways to spend my time! I have a whiteboard at the end of my bed, and every week I write a to-do list on it. It feels amazing crossing things off that weekly list, to see my productivity. So why not harness #mondaymotivation and on a monthly basis set myself a bigger goal?

Whether it’s a professional goal to read one new piece of research every week (or one a month), or a fitness goal to get out and start running, or a fun goal like saying you want to doodle dinosaurs every night before you go asleep, I think we should make these goals. We should commit to them in some way, be it posting on instagram or keeping a journal and tracking our progress. And we should have fun!

 

So I am today making a commitment to drawing. I was always drawing as a kid, I have more scraps of paper around the house than I do hairs on my head (which is a lot). In the last few years, I haven’t done it as much. I recently bought an anatomical drawing book and I can’t wait to try it out!

What are you going to commit to? A doodle, a good book to finish four weeks from now, or something more wild and exciting? Let me know in the comments and we can all motivate each other! And if you get motivated in different ways, share it! You never know who you could inspire ❀

*featured image via krochetkids.org*

2013: why I failed and why it’s okay

Apologies for the long gap between this post and my last post! I have no excuse other than laziness and procrastination. And so today I’ll be touching on that same laziness and procrastination.

As I’ve said before, I sat my Leaving Cert twice. Once in 2016, and once in 2013. Obviously I was a lot more successful on the second try! But I’ve been thinking about what went wrong the first time.

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I have never been particularly studious. I know I’m intelligent and more than capable when I put my mind to it. But I had always done the bare minimum amount of work. I was pretty sure I was going to get the points that year, and get my place, and go off to college alongside my friends. I would be qualifying as a midwife this September instead of starting the course. It’s a strange thought.

But clearly, that didn’t happen. About this time four years ago, I was offered a place in the Pre-Nursing course. I remember it so well, I picked up the post on my way to a study session in the school (it was the easter break) and the letter was there. I bounced into the library and was congratulated. I wonder did I get even more  laid back from there? Was I doing any work at all before that point? Or did I, as my mother predicted, sit back and relax with the security of having somewhere to go that autumn?

 

I remember getting my Leaving Cert results that first year, and feeling sick. I threw myself into helping my friends add up their points, congratulating every single girl near me, avoiding the teachers who would ask how I did. I went home and got back into bed. I had a really, really long cry. I went out and got a hundred kinds of drunk over the next eight days (not a suitable coping mechanism). I avoided checking my email when college offers came a week later.

I felt like the biggest failure. I struggled to be excited about starting the one year course. After about ten days, I just had an intense feeling of relief. At least I had somewhere to go, something productive to do for the next nine months. It would at the very least get me a job (which it did), and the best that could happen would be it got me into midwifery (which it didn’t).

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I think the point of this post is to not let one failure feel like the end. I have more failures to ramble on about, 2013 is the first of many. But as I see offers and rejections in the UK rolling out, I do sometimes get pulled back to that feeling. I can only speak for myself, but I am quite glad that I didn’t get what I wanted in 2013. I believe that everything happens for a reason. Now, at twenty two, I am so much more experienced than that eighteen year old girl. I am stronger. I am smarter. I have finally started to grow some kind of backbone, and stand up for myself in professional settings. I don’t take things so personally. I’m happier too, and I think that’s so important. If you get rejected from one or more university, if you don’t get your first choice (or any of your choices, like me), it is absolutely fine to fall apart for a little while. The key part is getting yourself back in one piece.

If you find yourself facing rejection, I have a few tips to offer:

  • Let yourself feel sad. It’s okay. You can wallow for a while, this is tough stuff.
  • Do something to make yourself feel good. Do your hair or your nails, get up and dance, go to the ocean or the mountains.
  • Do not lock yourself away.
  • Do not give up. Look at this as extra time in the journey – what experience can you get between now and the next try? What can you do for yourself?

So, accept failure! It is definitely a learning experience. If you have stories to share about failure in your college applications, job applications, anything at all, leave it in the comments (you never know who it could help). If you want to chat about anything I’ve brought up, please let me know!  ❀